Last night Chris was scratching the side of his nose at dinner. I looked up and said to him,
"Is it time to go?"
Then we both burst our laughing, leaving our children staring at us like we'd finally lost it. Mags, not one to tolerate a private joke she's not included in, inquired right away.
"What the heck are you guys laughin' about?"
Chris and I explained how we used to have a signal for one another when we were out at a get together. It let the other one know when we were ready to leave. That way, we both knew when to wrap it up. It was a handy thing to have in our back pocket. If the other person wasn't ready, we'd just be respectful and maybe cut down on the time we were there. It was a secret agreement between us and it worked well.
After we explained this to the kids, they reported that they never had seen us do that at any parties. Chris chuckled and retorted,
"That's because we only ever go to kids' birthday parties...and those are over after the cake is eaten and presents are opened."
Basically, when we do get a chance to go to a grown-up party, we don't need the sign. We stay out as late as we can, which we've found among our friends...is about an hour or two past the kids' bedtime. What a bunch of old farts!
Do you and your significant other have any signals? Feel free to share them (and make me feel normal) in the comments below.